Online CBT Therapy & Confidence Coaching for People-Pleasers
Online confidence coaching for people pleasers who want to build self-worth, set healthier boundaries and stop overthinking their relationships.
I work with clients in London, across the UK and internationally, combining my experience as a therapist and coach with practical, evidence-based psychological tools.
Who
you are
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Or perhaps you’re a mature woman who has wholeheartedly dedicated her life to her family, placing the nurturing of your marriage and children above everything else.
Now, you’re grappling with the tough realization that your needs and desires didn’t receive the same level of attention and care.
As a result, you’re struggling to regain your direction and to rediscover who you truly are.
What your issues
tend to be
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This inherent kindness of yours can sometimes backfire, attracting people who see your good nature as a weakness to exploit.
You often feel stuck in uneven relationships, pouring in more than you ever receive. Yet, your fear of being labelled ‘needy’ or ‘a burden’ means you struggle to stick up for yourself and insist on what you rightfully deserve.
You often find yourself in the trap of perpetual people-pleasing, fearing disappointment might haunt those around you. Consequently, you transform into a yes-person, becoming more and more accommodating, even at the cost of your own needs.
There might be moments when you feel unusually frustrated with your relationships, which inevitably leads to a swirl of guilt and shame because you feel bad about being upset with the people you love the most.
What
you need
People-pleasing isn’t simply a habit you need to stop. It is often held in place by beliefs and rules about approval, rejection, conflict and responsibility for other people’s feelings.
You’ll learn practical psychological tools to challenge these patterns, set boundaries and communicate more assertively.
The goal isn’t to care less about other people. It’s to build enough self-trust to stay connected to yourself while staying connected to them.
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People-pleasing often develops around deeply held beliefs and rules about relationships: I need to keep everyone happy. I shouldn’t disappoint people. Conflict means something is wrong. Other people’s needs should come before mine.
Together, we’ll identify the patterns that keep these rules going — from saying yes when you want to say no, to over-explaining, seeking reassurance, avoiding difficult conversations or replaying interactions afterwards.
Understanding where these patterns come from is important, but insight alone isn’t always enough. We’ll also work on responding differently in the situations that trigger them — practising boundaries, communicating more assertively and learning to tolerate the discomfort that can come when you stop automatically accommodating others.
Over time, the goal is to rely less on external approval and develop greater self-trust and confidence in your own decisions, needs and relationships.
From Guilt and Overthinking to Confidence and Boundaries
The Formula
Inner Design
Step #2:
The Boundaries
Step #3:
Self-Trust
Step #4:
Emotional Regulation
Step #5:
The Integration
Step 1.
The Inner Design
Step 2.
The Boundaries
Step 3.
Self-Trust
Step 4.
Emotional Regulation
Step 5.
The Integration
Ways to work together
Start with a single session, choose ongoing support or explore your relationship patterns through a focused two-hour Intensive.
Flexible individual support
£200 per session
Book an individual online therapy or coaching session when you need focused support without committing to a longer package.
Structured coaching programme
£1,500
A structured programme for changing people-pleasing patterns, strengthening boundaries and developing lasting self-trust.
Deeper, longer-term work
£2,800
Longer-term support for working through deeply rooted patterns and practising new ways of relating to yourself and others.
Focused two-hour experience
£397
Understand the unconscious blueprint shaping your relationships and identify what needs to change first.
Not sure which option is right for you? Book a free discovery call and we can discuss the most appropriate level of support for your needs.
Hi! I’m Ludo!
When I was a child, I had this strange habit of watching the same Disney movies over and over again. It was almost like a ritual for me.
It wasn’t that I didn’t like other cartoons. It was just that periodically watching the same ones gave me a sense of comfort and familiarity that I craved. My household was unpredictable and chaotic. My parents would argue and fight constantly, and I never knew when they would explode into a full-blown screaming match.
Watching the same cartoons repeatedly was my coping mechanism– a way of creating a sense of stability in my life. It was something I could count on, something that would always be there for me, no matter what else was happening around me.
As I grew older, I realized that my childhood experiences had a profound impact on the way I saw the world and the way that I operated in my relationships. It made me empathetic towards others who were going through difficult times, and I found myself drawn to listening to their stories. It was almost like I wanted to enter into their world and help them find the stability and comfort that I craved as a child.
That’s why I studied to become a therapist and a coach.
It’s a profession that allows me to enter into people’s stories, to help them make sense of their experiences, and to provide them with the support and guidance they need to navigate life’s challenges.
Enlightening people to see their blind spots so they can live more authentically, untangling their thoughts to alleviate their pain, uncovering their strengths so they can acquire the boldness necessary to push forward – this is what my job means to me .
I have studied psychology since I knew how to read, I am a certified therapist and coach and there is no other job I can see myself doing in this lifetime!
I am a therapist, a coach , but also a patient and a lifelong learner.
I’ve gone through therapy and coaching myself – not just once, but several times…I firmly believe that my experience as a patient makes me a better, more empathetic professional.
I know what it means to be sitting on the other side full of hope and let’s face it, also fear, not knowing if you can fully trust the person in front of you or if you are wasting your time and money…
I had direct and indirect experience of mental health problems – I have a deep understanding of how the mind works and I am ready to put this knowledge to work for you.
My approach combines psychological insight with practical behavioural change. I want you to understand why you keep falling into the same patterns — but I also want us to do something with that understanding.
That might mean learning to say no without over-explaining, expressing disagreement instead of avoiding conflict, making decisions without constantly seeking reassurance, or setting a boundary and tolerating the discomfort that follows.
Because becoming the main character in your own life isn’t about caring less about other people.
It’s about learning to care for them without losing yourself in the process.
Client experiences
Working with Ludovica as my confidence coach has truly been a life-changing experience. Before our sessions, I struggled immensely with self-doubt and felt like my voice was constantly overshadowed. With Ludovica’s guidance, I learned how to express myself confidently, and my relationships improved enormously as a result.
“I found my voice and I feel more aligned than ever.”
Jessica M. · London, UK
I put enormous pressure on myself to do everything perfectly and to always be seen as capable and ‘good’. Making mistakes felt threatening, so I overworked and constantly questioned whether I had done enough. Working with Ludovica helped me separate my self-worth from achievement and other people’s approval. I still have high standards, but they no longer control me.
“I can have high standards without them controlling me.”
Jenna M. · London, UK
I came to Ludovica struggling with people pleasing, particularly within my family. Even in the first session, I understood the cycle I was caught in and something really clicked. I became more confident communicating my boundaries and realised I could be clear without being confrontational or unkind. My family relationships improved because I stopped automatically prioritising everyone else.
“I can be kind without abandoning myself.”
Charlie S. · Hertfordshire, UK
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