Before working with Ludo, so much of how I felt about myself depended on my relationships. I was constantly worried about being abandoned or rejected, and I would people please to try to keep relationships safe.

Working with Ludo helped me understand the anxious attachment patterns behind this and recognise how my fear of abandonment was affecting the way I behaved in relationships. I learned to notice my triggers without immediately reacting to them and to regulate myself when anxiety came up.

The biggest change is that I feel much more secure within myself. Relationships no longer feel like something I have to constantly manage or hold onto. I can communicate what I need and tolerate difficult emotions without immediately assuming that I am going to lose the relationship.

I feel calmer, more emotionally independent and much more able to trust myself.

When I started working with Ludo, I put enormous pressure on myself to do everything properly and to be seen as capable and “good”. Making a mistake felt much bigger than it should have, and I would compensate by overworking and constantly trying to make sure that I had done enough.

I hadn't realised how much of my perfectionism was connected to how I wanted other people to see me. Our work helped me question why making a mistake felt so threatening and why my self-worth had become so connected to achievement and other people's approval.

I still care about doing things well, but I don't feel that I have to prove myself constantly anymore. I am much better at recognising when doing my best has turned into overworking, and I can make mistakes without immediately questioning my competence or worth.

I feel like I can finally have high standards without those standards controlling me.

Before working with Ludo, I struggled with anxiety, low self-confidence and intrusive thoughts. I would get caught up in what I was thinking and feeling and found it very difficult to let things go.

Working with Ludo has made a significant impact on me. We worked on recognising intrusive thoughts without engaging with them, connecting with difficult feelings instead of trying to escape them, and allowing emotions to pass rather than becoming overwhelmed by them.

We also worked on self-worth, self-care, relationships, trauma bonding and understanding the triggers behind some of my reactions.

I now feel much more able to regulate myself and understand what I'm feeling without immediately getting lost in it. My confidence has grown, my relationships feel healthier and I have a completely different relationship with my own emotions. Ludo is brilliant and has had a significant impact on me throughout our work together.

I came to Ludo feeling weak in myself. I had spent so much time being the “good girl” — trying to be easy, kind and accommodating, worrying about disappointing people and thinking about what everyone else needed — that I had lost confidence in my own needs and judgement.

Working with Ludo helped me understand where those patterns came from and, more importantly, start behaving differently. I learned that being kind doesn't mean constantly accommodating other people, and that having needs, preferences and limits doesn't make me difficult or selfish.

Over time, I started trusting myself again. I became much more aware of the moments when I was making myself smaller or automatically prioritising someone else.

The biggest difference is my self-esteem. I no longer see myself as weak. I feel much stronger and more confident in who I am.

Before working with Ludo, I found it difficult to communicate what I really thought or needed in relationships. I would often avoid saying something because I didn't want to create tension or upset another person.

I wanted to become more assertive, but initially I associated assertiveness with confrontation. Ludo helped me recognise when I was filtering myself to manage somebody else's reaction and taught me how to communicate more directly while still being thoughtful and compassionate.

I became more comfortable expressing needs, saying when something didn't feel right and allowing another person to have their own reaction without immediately trying to fix it.

My relationships now feel more authentic because I am actually participating in them as myself rather than constantly adapting to what I think somebody else wants from me.

I came to Ludo because I was struggling with people pleasing, particularly within my family. I knew that certain interactions were affecting me, but I hadn't fully understood the pattern I was caught in.

Even in our first session, something clicked. Ludo helped me uncover the cycle behind my people pleasing — what was triggering it, how I was responding and how trying to keep everybody else happy was actually keeping the pattern going. Understanding it so clearly felt like a real breakthrough.

From there, I started approaching my family relationships differently. I became more aware of my boundaries and more confident communicating them rather than automatically giving in or prioritising everybody else's feelings.

What surprised me was realising that boundaries didn't require me to become confrontational or unkind. I can be kind without abandoning my own boundaries. I feel more confident in what I need, more able to communicate it and less responsible for managing everybody else's emotions.