Being in a relationship with a people pleaser can feel surprisingly easy at first. They are often thoughtful, attentive and very good at noticing what other people need. They tend to be flexible, rarely make a fuss and often adapt quickly to keep things running smoothly. From the outside, this can look like a particularly […]
Assertive Communication
Who Are You When You Stop People Pleasing? How to Find Yourself Again
There’s a moment that happens — usually somewhere in the middle of therapy, at 2am, or in the car after a conversation where you said yes again — when a question surfaces that you can no longer push back down: Who am I when I’m not trying to please everyone else? It sounds simple. It […]
Confidence Coaching for Women in London — What to Expect
I didn’t set out to become a confidence coach. I set out to understand why I kept making myself smaller. Why I said yes when I meant no. Why I over-explained, over-apologised, and spent entire conversations monitoring other people’s reactions instead of actually being present in them. The more I trained — first in CBT, […]
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser: The Complete Guide
How do you stop being a people pleaser? Stopping people pleasing starts with learning to notice when you are automatically prioritising someone else’s comfort over your own needs. Instead of trying to change everything at once, begin by interrupting the pattern in small, manageable situations. To stop being a people pleaser: Pause before automatically saying […]
What Is Self-Abandonment? (And How to Stop Losing Yourself)
What Is Self-Abandonment? (And How to Stop Losing Yourself) Self-abandonment happens when you consistently disconnect from your own: needs, emotions, boundaries, values, or instincts in order to maintain relationships, avoid conflict, or gain approval. Many people who struggle with self-abandonment do not realize it is happening. It can look like: constantly prioritizing other people, suppressing […]