Online CBT Therapy & Confidence Coaching for People-Pleasers
from self-abandonment to confidence
If you’re tired of overthinking, feeling guilty for saying no, or constantly putting other people’s needs before your own, I can help you break the patterns behind people-pleasing.
Through CBT therapy and confidence coaching, you’ll learn to set boundaries without overwhelming guilt, trust yourself, communicate your needs and feel more secure in your relationships.
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Flexible individual support
£200 per session
Book individual therapy or coaching sessions when you need focused support without committing to a longer package.
Best for deeper, ongoing work
From £1,500
Longer-term support for changing deeply rooted patterns, building confidence and practising new ways of relating.
Focused two-hour experience
£397
Understand the unconscious blueprint shaping your relationships and identify what needs to change first.
Healing is unbecoming the person you thought you had to be in order to be accepted
Areas we can explore together
Understand the patterns keeping you stuck and learn practical ways to build boundaries, self-trust and more balanced relationships.
Stop automatically putting everyone else’s needs before your own.
→ 02Protect your time, energy and needs without being consumed by guilt.
→ 03Express disagreement without fearing rejection or disconnection.
→ 04Stay connected to yourself while remaining connected to other people.
→ 05Reduce rumination, second-guessing and replaying conversations.
→ 06Feel more secure without constantly looking for reassurance.
→ 07Communicate what you feel, need and want with greater confidence.
→ 08Recognise the cost of overgiving and begin restoring your energy.
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From People-Pleasing to Self-Confidence:
Set Boundaries, Stop Overthinking, and Feel More Confident in Relationships
Stop automatically saying yes when you really want to say no. Learn to recognise people-pleasing patterns, set boundaries without guilt, and express yourself more confidently in relationships.
Instead of overthinking every decision or replaying conversations in your head, you’ll learn practical tools to quiet self-doubt, trust yourself, and communicate your needs more clearly.
Through a CBT-informed approach, you’ll begin to understand and change the fear of rejection, approval-seeking and self-abandonment that keep people-pleasing patterns in place — so your confidence comes increasingly from self-trust rather than external validation.
This work is not about becoming colder, harsher, or less caring. It’s about learning how to stay connected to yourself while staying connected to others — so your relationships no longer come at the cost of your own needs, voice, or emotional wellbeing.
People pleasing is everywhere in popular psychology — but the research is more complex, and more interesting, than many of the explanations we see online.
In my latest LuCole Research Review, I look at decades of psychological research on self-silencing, rejection sensitivity, reassurance seeking, perfectionism, boundaries and assertiveness to explore what the evidence can — and cannot — tell us about people pleasing.
Explore the research Approval · Self-Silencing
Boundaries · Putting Others First
Client experiences
Working with Ludovica as my confidence coach has truly been a life-changing experience. Before our sessions, I struggled immensely with self-doubt and felt like my voice was constantly overshadowed. With Ludovica’s guidance, I learned how to express myself confidently, and my relationships improved enormously as a result.
“I found my voice and I feel more aligned than ever.”
Jessica M. · London, UK
I put enormous pressure on myself to do everything perfectly and to always be seen as capable and ‘good’. Making mistakes felt threatening, so I overworked and constantly questioned whether I had done enough. Working with Ludovica helped me separate my self-worth from achievement and other people’s approval. I still have high standards, but they no longer control me.
“I can have high standards without them controlling me.”
Jenna M. · London, UK
I came to Ludovica struggling with people pleasing, particularly within my family. Even in the first session, I understood the cycle I was caught in and something really clicked. I became more confident communicating my boundaries and realised I could be clear without being confrontational or unkind. My family relationships improved because I stopped automatically prioritising everyone else.
“I can be kind without abandoning myself.”
Charlie S. · Hertfordshire, UK
Tools and tips to overcome people pleasing, overthinking and build more authentic connections,
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I work as both a therapist and a coach, which means I can integrate emotional healing with practical change strategies depending on your needs.
Therapy focuses more on:
Therapy helps you understand why certain patterns developed and how they continue to affect your relationships, confidence, and emotional wellbeing.
Coaching focuses more on:
Coaching is generally more future-focused and action-oriented.
Yes.
Many clients benefit from combining therapy and coaching together.
My approach integrates:
This means we do not only talk about patterns intellectually — we also work on applying change in real-life situations and relationships.
Yes. All sessions are currently offered online via secure video call, allowing you to access support from wherever you are.
Yes. You are welcome to contact me for a brief consultation to discuss your goals, ask questions, and explore whether we would be a good fit to work together.
I offer both individual therapy/coaching sessions and longer-term support packages.
Many clients choose the 10-session package when working on deeper patterns such as people-pleasing, anxiety, low self-esteem, overthinking, or difficulty setting boundaries in relationships.
The package allows for greater continuity, accountability, and long-term change rather than only short-term symptom management.